Space Invaders

I like people. I like talking to people. But the 2m rule during Covid made me really happy - I feel safe.

I like to breath in my own air, I like to be able to turn my head/body without concerns of whacking into someone or something.

I do not like people in my space.

I have missed hours of a get together/play date/party with a lovely friend, spending the entire time trying to dodge their advances into my space. I retreat discreetly, shifting back to give me space, and then they possibly unconsciously follow me, getting closer.

I have to think of clever tricks to regain my own space - going to the bathroom, getting a drink, opening a window, picking up some rubbish from the other side of the room and putting it in the bin, spontaneously finding a need to water flowers or go outside.

It is a real problem.

Here is how I cope;

Stage one - tell an interesting story about someone else getting too close and making you/or someone else ill, or reminisce about how much you liked the 2m rule, and how that when people stand 2m away it makes you feel safe.

Hint(s) unsuccessful, move on to..

Stage two - the dance, turn ‘auto-convo’ on and allow your clever brain to partake in a conversation (you will never fully remember what was discussed, or worse - what you agreed, smiling encouragingly) whilst discreetly, and somewhat undiscreetly, ‘dancing’ away from the person to give you back your space. I have an island, I can do three laps before I start pulling out barriers blocking them from following me before moving on to….

Stage three - retreat - go outside. I feel safer outside, and admittedly when it is raining or really cold, you appear a bit odd. Which is fine. Odd and safe sounds like the perfect combination. “There is never bad weather only bad clothing” - a saying someone I assume quite privileged and not living in hurricane zones, said. I like rain anyway.

Bluey explains what a space invader is beautifully

I have tried suggesting we sit, waiting for them to sit first, then sitting a close, but not too close, distance away. In my experience they either scuttle closer, or literally get up and sit right next to you.

If anyone has any tips, please feel free to contact!!